The Ohio School Shooting Aftermath

After another senseless, thoughtless act of momentary selfishness of self satisfaction has taken place, and as I said before, it's like taking drugs, the satisfaction only lasts for a short period then it is over.  The fallout begins.

It appears the family of T J Lane was so dis-functional that none of the immediate family could live together.  T J had to live with his grandparents because the father was horribly destructive to others around him, including serving time in prison, and the mother was some sort of drug addict.  The brother, from one news report is also a smack addict.  There is only a mere mention of a sister. T J himself had already been arrested for assault once before; the apple not falling far from the tree. 

It's children like this that fall short in life and need more than just help.  Most reports on the above story are that he was a typical teenager.  There was one or two fellow students saying that he was bullied.  Bullied or not, that does not give him the right to release his anxiety, anger, and frustrations out on others.  It's usually children that are singled out in school and bullied, but this does not seem the case here.  It's children like this that the train keeps running for.

Had this boy been removed from the home sooner along with his other siblings, their life probably could have turned out more meaningful, more productive.  It did seem from other reports that this boy seemed to be turned around once the grandparents gained custody, but at the same time, maybe T J saw himself "different" because he was living with "older" custodians.  One never knows what goes on in the mind of a child or what they see unless we pry into the "business" of the child and do a "study".  This is not a slap against the grandparents.  I commend them for taking custody of their grandson when the parents could not possibly find themselves parenting.

Students in school don't realize what they do to another when they tease a fellow classmate.  Some children can accept teasing.  Teasing is good in one sense as it teaches us to become "thick skinned".  However, there is teasing and there is ridiculing.  Once or twice is teasing.  Three or four times is harassing and any more than that is ridiculing.  Once the ridiculing begins, the thought patterns in one's mind begin to change.  With some only anger takes place.  With others, anger takes on the form of hostility, and hostility turns to acts of violence.  With the act of violence comes the destruction as we have witnessed in the news, not only this time, but time and time again.  We need to find a way to break into all of this dis-functionality and correct it before it takes its toll on everyone.  Far too many lives become destroyed whether its a little or a lot, whether its emotional or physical.  Far too many lives are destroyed.