Decide Where You are The Most Comfortable

You grow up with people that no longer get the reaction from you that they used to.  Or maybe you view things even more differently now that you are out of high school than they did.  Your thought patterns have become wiser.  All the while, they have not reached that point yet and they no longer get from you the energy they once received.  You've separated yourself from the pack.  You're wounds begin to heal.  Then you meet that special someone and maybe it didn't turn out like it should have.  All they do is cost you money, whether it be through acquiring things, or going to something that someone that has sold them tickets to because it was simply a fund raiser for this cause or that.  You're spending money all the time and you never see your bank account increasing.  You sit down with that someone to discuss what your goal is as a couple, but they don't want to talk about it.  You're deemed selfish because you don't want to spend any money.  Really?  Why not spend some money on something that will do you the most good, like a house instead of an apartment where you are compartmentalized amongst a bunch of other people that you don't find that desirable to be around?  You may have to start with an apartment, but why end up there?  It may take a while to get that down payment, but all it takes is patience, focus, and fortitude.  But let's say that part didn't happen.  The torment begins in "The Train Runs No More".  Let's say that your field of career choice requires you to move if you want to maintain the same living standard that you have been able to acquire.  You have now earned this vast amount of money in a field that you love, but because of American greed, or poor economy due to cut backs and policies made by the political administration in office, you have to go through a company wide layoff.  You have finally gained the understanding from your spouse that with the restraint of always having to buy something, your bank account is now growing and in order to maintain that, you have to move to another region just to maintain what both of you have acquired so far.  But the field that you have chosen is economically driven and although you are earning money that you have never seen before without having to resort to selling drugs, you now are moving periodically, just to maintain.  Your spouse finally says, "Screw this crap.  I can do better on my own!"  And you split.  After a time, you purchase a house. You buy a new car.  You wear better clothing and you do this by yourself.  Your spouse on the other hand, lives in an apartment, and then move to another because they can't make the rent, and then another.  Resorting to what looks like an opportunity to buy a house on a government program designed to help the poor by paying one dollar a month to pay for this house, and they can't even do that by themselves.  They become embittered.  Where there is children involved and they have won primary custody, their attitude is now being impressed upon the children, but because you are unable to be with your children the way you used to be, they have become weak and embittered just like your spouse.  You have no choice in the matter when they are simply used as a tool of extraction for more money than what is deemed by the court only to find that it is not being used the way it was intended.  You say no more.  Then you become isolated from your children.  Your older sibling, which already hates you because you came into his world and messed things up for him, becomes an opportunity for your now ex-spouse.  Together, they plot, they machinate against you while they think that you can't see the forest for the trees.  What time you do get with your children is only spent with you revealing "secrets" to them because they were sent as "spies".  How do you know this?  Because after they return home, a week or so passes, long enough for the ex-spouse to be "briefed", and suddenly the children need this great sum of money.  Being nice, you give it to them the first time only to find out it didn't go where it was supposed to go.  So the next time you tell them no.  Then the embitterment sets in and eventually you have to make a decision as to whether you want to maintain a relationship no matter how unhappy you are forced to be, somewhat like it was with all of those idiots that you grew up with taking advantage of you, and antagonizing you.  You're still being bullied.  It's just taken on a new form and this time, it has been passed on to another generation.  Or you decide to let go, and go on enjoying the happy, enjoyable life that you are in at the moment.  Only you can decide where you are the most comfortable.